I have a confession to make, and it’s kind of embarrassing. Here it is. As an anti-racist educator, I totally put the cart before the horse. I acknowledged that unlearning white supremacy is hard work but I engaged with aspiring allies like y’all had your stuff together. I’m sure you’ll forgive some of us for thinking that because you have more money, power, access, margin, and you show up, that you also have the emotional bandwidth and maturity to learn how to not be racist. Whiteness doesn’t actually allow for emotional health as a default. It’s still something white folks (and all of us) have to fight for.